See me as a person, not an object

Don’t look at me and think about sex. Don’t assess me in terms of suitability for your sexual gratification. Don’t make that the most important thing about me.

Don’t even get all uppity and think something like, “She fancies herself if she thinks I’d be remotely interested in sex with her.” Because that’s still assessing my suitability.

When you do that, it’s all about you. It’s about whether you can ‘get some’ or not. You don’t see me as a person if you see me as an object of your sexual desire, or a turn-off.

Instead, look at me as a person. As someone you can have a laugh with, or buy something from, or do fun stuff with, or get advice from, or any of the myriad things that make me a person.

See me as a person, not an object.